Welcome to your 30s, where it seems like everyone except you has already done what they were supposed to do. You are still role-playing the responsible adult while also secretly playing with Toys R’ Us Lightsabres.
Welcome to your 40s. You might as well openly enjoy being who you’ve always been because at this point the people with a death grip on “supposed to” just seem kind of sad.
Welcome to your 50s! The people who did it the prescribed way have had time to get bored with it and start over. The people who were clearly screwing up and heading for trouble went there and came out the other side. Almost nobody’s that great-looking any more (except that one person that nobody would have predicted would be a middle-aged knockout) and almost everybody turned out both smarter and nicer than you expected.
(But would it kill young people to speak up and not mumble?)
IT GOT BETTER IT GOT BETTER !!! LMAOOOOOOOO OMG IT GOT SO MUCH FUCKING BETTER!!!!