betterbemeta:

specialagentholdenford:

ladyshinga:

asking-ask:

soggywarmpockets:

iamchinyere:

soggywarmpockets:

invadertoph:

iamchinyere:

LISTEN UP!!!!

This kinda seems like the perfect date for me though? Like something to drink, Uno, and Bob’s Burgers? But I don’t like people so made it’s just me.

You all really need to get rid of this notion that your partner has to take you somewhere or spend money on you to show their affection. Fast food, lowkey chill time, and staying in are all fine, and sometimes that is all you can do. Spending time together is the point. Not everything needs to be a spectacle to impress your Facebook friends or Instagram followers.

Imagine buying 2 mcchickens & sitting on the couch & calling it a date. Yea ya’ll are spending time together cool. But these are not “dates”

Imagine dismissing quality time with the person you care about as not good enough because they didn’t spend a ton of money on you and you only gauge their affection by how much they’re willing to shell out on your ass.

What the actual fuck is wrong with you people

poor people apparently can’t date, they only vaguely circle each other in misery before mating for life if they can afford a “real marriage”

Nights in are just as relationship-fostering as nights out. Sometimes they’re more so because, hey, you’re not in public, so you can get as rambunctious and affectionate as you damn well please. I love going to restaurants and the theater and such as much as the next person when I save up for it, but like hell I’m gonna devalue a night in of doing whatever I want with my significant other.

This post is like… a weird expression of the unhealthy culture and authenticity problems ‘romance’ (vs. like. just feeling romantic attraction or something) has. A lot of the rituals including the concept of ‘a real date’ have a lot to do with socioeconomic status, high visibility, and even race. A lot of it is set up to use coupling, eventual marriage, as the main way to replicate and pass down units of wealth in our society. And you just have to look at people who have less access to wealth (lgbt+ people, disabled people, people of color, poorer people) to see who in turn has less access to rituals of ‘romance’ and by extension whose expressions of intimacy and relationship-building are considered trashy or insufficient.

at length, what I’m saying is “a real date” is a concept mostly set up to narrow down that white, straight, middle class people get to experience romantic ideals for essentially the socioeconomic status quo. Go eat chicken nuggets with your partner in bed. It’s counterculture.