me judging big blockbuster movies: ugh again with these tired romance cliches? come on, aren’t we above this? this is gonna suck
me reading fanfic: *opens the 700th coffee shop au with unintentional bed sharing i’ve ever read* damn this is gonna be So Good
I recently tried to watch a Hallmark movie and it hit me that the reason I can’t stand these tropes in romance movies is because they’re often presented in infuriating ways. They were doing the enemies to lovers trope by having the guy insult what the woman did for a living and call it frivolous then rudely making loud noises in the hotel room next to her and not stopping even when she complained.
In movies this trope tends to be played as the man being an absolute asshole but them still getting a happily ever after, which sends the message that women should put up with and forgive this behavior once the man is willing to love her.
In fanfic the enemies to lovers trope is portrayed as the characters being competitors or having misunderstandings. In these fics they usually don’t do anything hurtful to each other, they just bump heads. Their initial interactions aren’t toxic and they have a believable foundation for a healthy relationship.
Hollywood is stuck, it’s been portraying these tropes the same way for decades and they tend to be subtly sexist. Sometimes it’s not even that subtle. Fanfic uses the same tropes as romance movies but they do them a little differently and those differences speak to more people.
Also, fanfic tends to have them explicitly work through their issues before moving into a relationship – or else showing that not doing so causes more problems later – while movies tend to flip switch to “relationship time” and ignore everything beforehand, which is weird and creepy.
just not the twig white cis emo boy with basic girl couples
what we NEED:
ones that aren’t toxic
the ones that ARE toxic be taken as toxic and not romanized and actually dealt with maturely and shows that those relationships are not healthy
overweight girl of color with most popular boy in school
trans girl with the football player
trans boy of color with girl football player
just break the basic white stick cis girl and the basic white stick cis boy normative!!!
^THIS!!! Like, cool. I’ll take some more m/f couples, but they need to be diverse!!!!!!! I want trans guys and gals, I want people of color, I want healthy relationships!! People need to see themselves represented, and that includes all of those people who are in m/f relationships, but aren’t the “white cis guy and white cis girl” that are the current mold. Please and thank you.
Agreed on everything.
Also more m+f and m+m and f+f friends that don’t end up in romance and have a healthy friendship, please.
Healthy friendship is all the reason I got back into Elementary (I’m mid s04 right now and please, don’t spoil me for anything).
It’s about the only show I can think off the top of my head where you have a m/f friendship between two adults who do their best to be good friends as well as trying to do their best to be as emotionally healthy as they can be, and help each other along the way.
It’s honestly amazing and I am all over that. I wish we could see more healthy relationships in media in general.
Acephobia in the LGBT+ Community from the documentary (A)sexuality.
It is just…so fucking weird how threatened people feel when it comes to Asexuality. I still can’t wrap my mind around it.
I’m so happy this post is being reblogged by LBGT+ people who aren’t asexual. I keep on reading posts by non-ace LGBT+ people of support to the ace community, and of being stunned by this reaction by a movement which should know better than to judge. AND THAT MAKES THIS ACE SO FREAKING HAPPY. The woman in the first photo expresses my sentiment. I know I belong in the queer/LGBTQIA movement. I want to belong. But I just don’t know if I’m welcome. I’m so happy that there are so many people on Tumblr who do not fall into the catagory of outright refusal of asexuality.
I know not a lot of people understand asexuality. And I know there’s confusion about it, about our experiences, and about how we fit in the movement. But let’s talk about this. Let’s have this conversation.
I mostly don’t delve into the ace tags, but I hear there’s a lot of ace-hate that and I really don’t get it. I don’t understand how asexuality is threatening.
You know what I (as a queer ace-spectrum person) find most threatening? Getting unwanted sexual unwanted advances from both queer and straight people. I’ve gotten them from people of all spectrums and it always makes me profoundly uncomfortable, and often unsafe. It just boggles my mind how people are upset by the concept of asexuality. That’s like getting really mad at someone who isn’t hungry. What’s the point? Just shut up eat your own sandwich. (And stop chewing on me.)
Wow, the fuck the people in those images.
Nobody has the right to disrespect anybody else’s sense of self. It may not be for, you but that does not give you the right to be an asshole.
We really need to push more for LGBTQIA+ to be a standard,instead of just LGBT, especially considering that even the B and T are already invisible in much of the community.
Not supporting some of us = not supporting all of us.
Not supporting some of us = not supporting all of us.
It really, really does bear repeating.
I couldn’t be further from ace, but for serious.
If we’re not in this together, we’re not in this at all.
This makes me so angry. I have friends who are ace, and they are just as much a part of the queer community as I am.
We need to embrace asexuality and treat it with the respect that it deserves.
I heart the non-aces who reblog this so hard. ❤ Thank you friends.
To all of my friends out there and ESPECIALLY my trans friends, if you hadn’t done so now, PLEASE GET A PASSPORT.
President Obama made it VERY easy to get your gender marker changed on your passport. All you need is:
– An ID that resembles your current appearance (just get a new photo taken on a driver’s license or ANY government issued ID)
– Passport photo that resembles your current appearance (From any drug store)
– Proof of legal name change (if applicable)
– A physician statement that indicates you have either completed or are in process of treatment for gender transition (the hardest part)
No surgeries, no red tape, no bullshit. And when people try to harass you or puush you around because “Hahaha your ID says your x” Whip out your passport and shut them DOWN. I carry mine wherever I go and I know a lot of my friends who live in the south do so as well.
This law could VERY easily change under a Trump presidency and I haven’t been as serious about anything as I am about this. PLEASE GET A PASSPORT. Even the passport card (which is half as expensive as the book is!!!) will do. Just please if you can, get ONE ID that matches who you really are.
And I know to be able to get all of this together is a sign of privilege in the first place, and from one black, trans, queer women to all of my vulnerable siblings I will rot in a jail cell before I let this country harm any of us and I this I swear. I will NOT take this lying down.
PLEASE Signal Boost!
This is legit. My therapist at the VA told me this was the easiest way to get a form of ID with the proper gender marker on it.
I work in a supermarket. Your passport is a picture ID with your birthdate on it. We take it for buying booze.
I’ve recommended getting one to more than one nervous person handing over their license.
It expires just like your license and there’s some red tape for getting it renewed in a timely manner, but it’s considered as valid as your license even if it’s maybe less easy to carry around.
AND it’s internationally valid, unlike, say, your driver’s license.
If you can afford to get both the passport and the passport card, do it. Leave your passport at home, carry the passport card with you. It is a valid ID for purchasing liquor; it is a valid ID for crossing land and sea borders into Canada, Mexico, Bermuda, and the Caribbean (please note it is NOT valid for international air travel); it is a valid ID for filling out your paperwork when you get a new job.
Here’s a resource for what you needa try to get done before January when Trump starts changing shit and how to get that shit done. It includes things like name changes for Trans folks and healthcare resources. It might be helpful for someone even if it’s not helpful to you so please pass it on. Help marginalized people stay healthy and safe!
IF YOU’RE A CISHET WHITE YOU NEED TO BE REBLOGGING THIS SHIT SO MARGINALIZED LGBTQ+ POC KNOW THEIR OPTIONS. THIS IS HELPFUL FOR YALL ASSES TOO!!!
if you hated pink and/or blue as a kid because of the forced implication of rigid gendering of things that you knew you didn’t want to be a part of and as a kid you took it out on the colour but were able to embrace the colour(s) divorced from the bullshit as you grew up and were able to make your own choices about colour and now feel much more free to like pink and/or blue clap your hands
Let’s agree this year has been a total mess full of tragic events that got us all thinking “Can we have a damn break?”. Sadly all the bad stuff tends to bring us all so down that we forget about the good stuff. However, I want to remind you all of the incredible things that happened this year.
Diversity was the night’s winner at SAG Awards in pointed counter to Oscars.
The US Justice Department sued Ferguson to force the city to adopt police reforms negotiated with the federal government.
Beyoncé told us to get in Formation.
“Formation” is more than just a music video, it’s a siren call, a hymn that addresses discrimination and racism.
Jay Z’s Tidal donated $1.5 million to Black Lives Matter and other non-profit organizations.
The funds were raised during the October 2015 Tidal X concert at the Barclay’s Center in Brooklyn. Performers included Beyoncé, Nicki Minaj and Usher.
Beyoncé killed it at the Super Bowl 50 Halftime Show…
…and then blessed us with Lemonade…
…which introduced
Leah Chase who is also the prototype of Tiana from “The Princess and The Frog”.
Chadwick Boseman as Black Panther stole the show in ‘Captain America: Civil War’ and his character got his own movie that will be coming out in 2018.
Rihanna announced the launch of the Clara Lionel Foundation which will provide scholarship to international students that plan to continue their education in the US.
She said: “To be able to give the gift of an education is actually an honor. Higher education will help provide perspective, opportunities and learning to a group of kids who really deserve it. I am thrilled to be able to do this.”
Actress and playwright Danai Gurira won the Black Girls Rock Star Power Award.
Jesse Williams was presented a Humanitarian award at the BET Awards and delivered the most powerful speech.
Dark skin
beauty pageant titleholder and lieutenant in the United States Army Reserve
Deshauna Barber became Miss USA 2016.
Black teens continuously made us proud!
As well as Black women 👑
Imran Yousuf saved dozens of lives at the Pulse night club.
Now this is still making my heart ache, I don’t think anyone will ever get over what happened that night. But I think we need to honor Imran again, he is a true hero.
Treasury Secretary Jack Lew announced that Harriet Tubman will appear on face of the $20 bill.
We witnessed the blackening of CNN’s Don Lemon.
Colin Kaepernick took a knee during national anthem…
…and reminded us of our rights at the Know Your Rights Camp.
Ben & Jerry’s declared support for Black Lives Matter.
Solange blessed us with ‘A Seat At The Table’
8-year-old Jalen Bailey set up his own baking company to buy a house for his mother.
Black athletes made US history at the summer Olympic Games in Rio de Janeiro.
Ava DuVernay has become the first African American woman to ever direct a film with a budget over $100 million.
The US Army Corps of Engineers announced it won’t grant easement to cross Lake Oahe for DAPL.
Three Victoria’s Secret models of color went short and natural for the fashion show.
Honey Bun Baby.
Cicely Tyson, Diana Ross, Kareem Abdul-Jabbar and Michael Jordan were awarded a Presidential Medal of Freedom.
The confirmed cast of the upcoming Black Panther is lit.
And lastly just a huge shout out to Black Twitter and just Black people everywhere for coming up with the funniest jokes and memes even though you are not credited enough!
I’m not even sorry this turned out to be such a long post. I just wanna say that Black people, we’re gonna keep on rocking next year and every year after. Stay real, stay strong and feel free to add whatever made you proud in 2016 🙌🏾
Talk about Aleppo. Cry for them like you cried for Paris. Cry for them like you cried for New York. Talk about them. Our silence is killing them. They are people, PEOPLE. Are they not important because they’re arabs? because they’re Syrian? Do their lives matter less than the life of a French or an American? People from Aleppo are posting their goodbye messages on the internet as a final massacre is expected to happen any time soon and we are SILENT. We have been silent for over five years. Some children in Aleppo don’t know life without war. Imagine living in a city of ruins and having to fear for your life every instant. Hospitals, churches, houses, restaurants are bombed on the daily and hundreds are killed every single day. Yet we are silent. Remember them. Honor them. We’ve allowed a mass genocide to happen before our eyes for years. It’s burning is a testament of our moral failure. Talk about Aleppo, please.
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