Share the shit out of this. Share the ever-loving shit out of this. The UK is facing a vote with a party that has been very vocal about fucking over the homeless. Remind them why this policy is trash. Raise a huge swell of sympathy. Make it political suicide to go ahead with their plans.
in a relationship with healthy communication, arguments should end with understanding on both ends
you have to keep the goal in mind
do you want to win? or do you want to understand that person and resolve the issue? (ask yourself once, then ask again)
the ego loves to win an argument, but relationships are not about feeding your ego
healthy relationships dilute the ego
if you find yourself arguing to win in your relationship, consider what you value more: the love you share with that person, or protecting your ego
This is 100% accurate. Hubby and I don’t fight often, but when we do we know the following: 1. We’re on each other’s sides 2. We’re trying to reach understanding 3. We’re trying to find a solution that will work for both of us 4. We won’t always get what we want 5. Getting what we want is less important than making it work. 6. Usually the one who cares the most wins. That is not always the same person. (For example: I have stronger feelings on things like breastfeeding and circumcision. He has stronger feelings about which conventions we go to. I tend to defer to him on areas of law (his professional expertise) and he mostly defers to me on parenting (my professional expertise)) 7. We both have vetos. We don’t use them often. I don’t whistle around him, he keeps the kids away when I’m trying to fix a computer. 8. If someone is getting upset, it’s probably not about the surface issue we appear to be fighting about, and we need to stop, regroup, and figure our own shit out and then talk about it.
We don’t, as a matter of policy: Namecall Try to score points Keep arguing when someone says they need a break from arguing Have the same argument over and over again without resolution
We work very hard to: Avoid putting each other in the middle of other people’s problems with one of us. (For example, if one of my parents has a problem with something they’re doing, I will NOT carry that to him. They can talk to him themselves, or it’s not that much of a problem.) Be the bad guy for each other. (i.e. he always has the option to say, “My wife needs me at home” when he wants out of a social obligation. I have the option to say, “I need to talk to my husband about that” when I don’t want to commit to a major expenditure, even though it’s incredibly rare that I would tell him I needed him too much for him to go do a fun thing, and I can authorize purchases without talking to him, but sometimes this avoids a whole fuckton of sales pressure. My kids get to make me the bad guy, too, when they want to avoid peer pressure.) Be each other’s safe space Make sure we’re taking care of ourselves. “I need to put my oxygen mask on” is a code for “I feel like I’m drowning and I need a little bit of time to regroup where I”m not being asked to do anything for anyone else, give me that time and I’ll be more useful.”
TL:DR? Our marriage vows included not only “Love, honor and cherish”, but the more concrete “Support, respect and defend.”
Honestly, if you do the later, the former is easy.
Knowing that trans women of color started the movement in the united states and were literally immediately erased and excluded from what they started is the most deeply jading knowledge.
It is the original sin of the so-called queer community and it damns it from the cradle.
how naive do u have to be if u really think american citizens get to vote on how the cia operates
For a detailed explanation of how and to what extent the CIA, NSA and other national security agencies are not accountable to the American public AT ALL I recommend the book National Security and Double Government by Michael J. Glennon. It’s not partisan, the author doesn’t hold any apparent fringe beliefs, and it’s impeccably sourced.
If you’re a UK blog who relentlessly reminded people vote in the US election last year, then i really hope that you’re doing the same thing for our general election on the 8th June, and are registered to vote. Because otherwise, shut up, go online, register to fucking vote and do your civic duty on the 8th.
Honestly, the same needs to go for US followers.
For the love of Christ, please reblog any post you see reminding UK voters to register and then to vote.
Please.
Deadline to registering to vote in the UK is May 22nd
Can I have your attention for a minute? I feel like I have an important(ish?) thing to bring up here.
Y’all know that all too familiar feeling when scrolling along here that you feel like everyone is the same age?
That’s not the case. And it can be a dangerous mindset.
Just a friendly -scary- reminder that I’m actually a grown ass adult, turning 21 in a month or so. And whilst my intentions are not predatory in the least, I want everyone to feel safe in thier online environment.
If y’all don’t want me, a grown ass adult to be following you; that is okay. This is supposed to be your safe space.
Please know that its okay if y’all wanna ask me politely to unfollow. I won’t be offended- I am completely aware of the age gap and I want y’all to feel comfortable.
And to my fellow older peeps- if you get offended when a 13-15ish person asks you to hit unfollow? Y’all should probably ask yourselves why that is the case. These are kids we’re talking about. We should want them to feel safe.
Aight. With that out of the way, feel free to go on your merry way.
It’s important to add: you don’t have to ask politely. Just ask. Or block, whatever works best for you. It’s not a minor’s job to coddle their adult followers. Not at all.
So, the last couple years y’all may have noticed a movement taking hold on both conservative and radical exclusionist gay circles called “Drop the T.” This movement, started possits that the LGBTQ movement is only the Gay movement and everything else is “appropriation” of Gay History.
This is, of course, total horse shit for a large number of reasons, so I’m going to go in point by point deconstructing this shit:
1) These people say, “It was gay people, not BTQ, that were targeted.” This is false even on it’s face. Even if you want to say trans people weren’t there because Stonewall happened in a time when the term trans wasn’t in popular usage (more on that in point 4), there were sure as shit crossdressers there, and they were ALWAYS the first ones targeted and carted off. The night of Stonewall, Storm DeLaverie, who wasn’t trans, was “Crossdressing” and the first arrested, so we’re Marsha Johnson and Sylvia Rivera, who were trans. And guess what? Those three were the first to fight back. We owe this movement to them, and how dare you revise and erase our history for you ideology.
2) They point to Sodomy laws as proof it was gay people specifically targeted, while forgetting the existence of Crossdressing Laws, which were on the books LONGER THAN SODOMY LAWS. In New York, y’know where Stonewall happened, there were Anti Crossdressing Laws on the books until 2011 while they eliminated sodomy laws in the 1970’s! There was a federal ban on sodomy laws in 2003, Lawrence v Texas, but still none for Anti-Crossdressing laws.
3) People were arrested because they were homosexual, not bi or trans.“ No, they just didn’t care if were apart of the L, G, B, or T, we were Queers that had to be Taken Care Of. Why do you think we banded together in the first place?
4) The Nazis’ first target for book burnings was Institut für Sexualwissenschaft, which was the first medical institute to perform Sex Reassignment Surgery in the 1930s and the works of Magnus Hirchfeld, who coined the term “Transsexual.” The reason “trans people didn’t exist” in the time of Stonewall is because it took us almost half a century for us to recover. You’ll notice quite a few of Stonewall Veterans who were “crossdressers” back in the day, ID’d as translater in life when the language became available again. The Nazis were the first to try this, and they wiped us off the face of the Earth for decades.
5) Divide and Conquer. We are strong together, and weak apart. It is an attempt to weaken our movement now that it isn’t specifically focused on helping topass legislation benefit only cis gay people. We fought for your rights, and now you got yours so screw us? Fuck that. It’s ENDA, when Barney Frank and the HRC pushed to exclude trans people so they could have it for themselves, all over again.
6) It’s apart of a larger transphobic movement in which conservatives and radical exclusionists teamed up. Remember when the Reagan administration banned funding for trans healthcare? Yeah, they used writings of Janice Reymond as supporting evidence. These groups wrote to the fucking UN to have trans rights removed from International Human Rights laws. They team up for bathroom legislation, including sending cis men into women’s bathrooms to scare cis women into supporting bathroom legilsation. ENDA. What did we do that’s equivalent to that? Why do you despise us so much?
You have no basis for your movement, not histrocial, not political, not anything other than pure hatred. Go fuck yourselves. We’ll eliminate exclusionist before trans people.
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