malachite is a poisonous mineral. please do not fuck the malachite stalactite
@lizaleigh do you know any rock people that can confirm/deny because I am very curious and really don’t feel like getting into a conversation with my geophysicist brother that MAY somehow get back to the fact I saw a malachite that looked like a weird dildo.
…sadly, I am not on good enough terms with any of our partner geologists to just attach this to an email with the subject line: “EXPLAIN.”
Although I think @mollisaurus is a mineral person. Thoughts?
oh geeze, i’m kinda rusty on minerals but malachite is just copper carbonate and is really common in both antique and modern jewelry so i think like if you were really gun-ho about it you could go ahead and put it wherever you want?
It’s really only a problem if you’re polishing or cutting it. The particles would be bad to breathe. It’s rather porous too, so I would worry about bacteria growing. Well, being literal anyway… Better to leave the poor thing alone. ._.
I mean it kinda depends on where you stick it because malachite does not like acidic environments very much and the malachite will degrade and also might dye your bits blue-green as the copper dissolves out.
So use a condom when fucking rocks is the takeaway here.
Oh my god guys it’s poisonous
It is super poisonous
There is a reason we do not use it in make up any more
Not even with a condom, do not fuck the rock
Try this one instead.
malachite literally explodes in water does it not?
I… no… I think you’re thinking of pure sodium?
Malachite is however water soluble, which really just means it will poison you quicker
This is both hilarious and cool as fuck because you’re getting all this information on minerals and rocks. You’re also watching people argue over wether or not you can fuck this rock
I go on hiatus for a week and come back to find tumblr molesting my post, but hey, at least we all learned something so yay tumblr, you just keep on being you.
I’m still not sure if I can fuck this rock.
I’m looking into it.
UPDATE:
Today in “I’m so sorry, coworkers, it’s for Tumblr,” I brought this post to the attention the science reporters at BuzzFeed. Dan Vergano did a some research and weighed in on the question “Can you use malachite as a dildo or is it toxic?”
The answer is “It’s probably fine, just wash it first and maybe use a bunch of lube.”
Oh man this got so much better than the last time I saw this post
This is my favourite. Science side of tumblr: asking the REAL questions
*biologist crashes through the underbrush*
Ok so here’s the thing though
Malachite is not poisonous to YOU. BUT fucking this stalactite will probably wreck your vaginal flora and leave you with a gruesome infection within a couple days.
Want details? SO GLAD YOU ASKED, ‘CAUSE HERE THEY ARE.
• Malachite is not copper oxide. It’s Cu2CO3(OH)2. Like most carbonates it’s water soluble– that’s how it became a stalactite in the first place! And technically any given chunk of “malachite” isn’t just malachite– it’s a mix of various copper carbonates & oxides. This will become important later.
• When malachite dissolves it makes a bunch of copper (Cu++) ions. Cu++ is GREAT at killing bacteria and fungi– so good at it that sprays with Cu++ get used a lot as a spray in agriculture to stop plant disease. It takes such a large dose to harm larger organisms that copper sprays are used a lot in organic agriculture (like Bordeaux mixture).
So bottom line, yes malachite is technically nontoxic to humans. But it kills bacteria when it dissolves and releases Cu++.
• Malachite dissolves somewhat slowly in water– but vaginal secretions aren’t just any water. A healthy human vagina has a pH of 3.8-4.5 and a salinity of about 0.9%. It’s also warmer than your average underground cave at 37°C (or 98.5°F in American meat units). As luck would have it, acidity, salinity, and warmth all make malachite dissolve faster.
• In other words, the human vagina dissolves malachite.
• I have no deeper explanation for why human females can dissolve rocks with our genitals. It simply is.
• Gonna to take a quick moment to point out that sex toys that dissolve when you use them are maybe not the best investment.
• Anyway the key question now is “how fast does the human vagina dissolve malachite?” Are we talking geological timescale, a Nazis-in-Indiana-Jones situation, or something in between? If the reaction kinetics of dissolution are very slow, then there’s nothing to worry about. An encounter with a stalactite would have to last years for enough Cu++ to leach out to cause problems. If it’s quick then we’re in trouble.
• Unfortunately it looks like nobody really knows. One of the best sources on how malachite dissolves & precipitates in water– an EPA document on how to avoid too much Cu++ in municipal drinking water systems– helpfully says “The kinetic constraints on the formation of these solids in water systems are largely unexplored” (p. 42) because end equilibrium points is all you need to run a city water system safely. In other words, the experiments that would tell us how fast malachite dissolves in various types of water just don’t exist because nobody’s ever needed to know before. So we’d better assume it’s going to happen reasonably quickly, #for safety.
• So in best scientific fashion, we’re just going to bullshit our way ahead using what facts we DO have on hand: endpoint equlibria.
That orange box is how many moles of dissolved Cu++ Scaife got from sticking malachite in some water that had 0.171 moles NaCl/L (body salinity is about 0.154 moles NaCl/L so this is slightly less salty than people) at 30°C. He’s got no acidity in there, and again the salinity and temperature are slightly lower than people. But this is probably the closest we’re going to get to data on how malachite behaves in vaginas anytime soon, folks. From this we can take away that if you leave malachite alone in a vagina you’ll get AT LEAST 9.12 x 10^-4 moles/L, or 5.8 ppm, of Cu++ at equilibrium.
• Recall from above that most “malachite” isn’t actually pure malachite, it’s a mix of various copper carbonates & oxides. The EPA document elaborates: “[T]raditional ‘eyeball’ identification of malachite by its blue-green color is extremely
unreliable, because almost all cupric hydroxysulfates, hydroxycarbonates, hydroxychlorides,
and even fresh cupric hydroxide can be some shade of blue-green. … Thus, the uncertainty in the computed copper
concentration in equilibrium with malachite is at least about a factor of 2 … until further experimental data focusing on this problem is generated.”
In other words, “do your math and then double how much Cu++ you think is going to be in the water, just in case.” So that gives us 11.6ppm Cu++, at equilibrium, with malachite in a (til now!) healthy vagina.
• Next step: do we have any idea what happens to bacteria in acid conditions with copper? OH MY GOD WE TOTALLY DO. Gyawali et al 2011 checked this out in the context of “so what if we rinsed tomatoes with a solution of lactic acid and copper, because that would be a safe & organic way to get rid of E. coli?” So now this post has officially ruined stalactites, vaginas, and tomatoes.
^This would happen. These are the counts of 4 E. coli strains exposed to various levels of lactic acid & Cu++ for 8 hours. This table only shows the end counts but it represents the death of 99.7% of bacteria*.
• Losing 99.7% of your vaginal flora is seriously bad news. You’re looking at really good odds of a yeast infection, bacterial vaginosis, and/or other infection issues. And that’s if you’re lucky enough to not be in the 4% of the population or so that’s sensitive to skin contact with copper.
• The good news? Biochemically speaking, you’re probably ok to put it in your butt. It’s not as acidic or salty in there, plus there’s a huuuuuge stockpile of gut microbes right upstream that can quickly repopulate the colon after spelunking is complete. However this stalactite is not flared at the base so it is the wrong shape for putting in your butt. Do not put this stalactite in your butt.
• This all looks like fun and games, but I think it’s really interesting that the internet’s mistake in concluding that this stalactite is fuckable is very similar to the mistake made by the Flint water management system. Hear me out.
• Central to the Flint lead poisoning crisis is that authorities only looked at & tested Flint’s water in its central treatment plant before it went out through the pipes. Not after it went through the pipes. They did not consider what would happen biochemically as it went through the pipes and metals started dissolving.
• Similarly, in concluding that the stalactite is fuckable, the internet only considered the stalactite itself. Not the biochemical processes that would happen to it as it, welp, went through the pipes.
• Media frequently reports that the Flint River’s water is “corrosive,” leading many to believe the river is full of industrial waste. This ain’t the case. You’d need industry to fill a river with industrial waste, and industry left decades ago. That’s why Flint’s so poor. So what IS in the water? Road salt. Plain old stupid road salt. The old Detroit-based source didn’t have salt because it came from Lake Huron which has a large, mostly rural watershed. Meanwhile the Flint River runs through a lot of towns, making it slightly salty as everything melts down in spring. And as we recall from the stalactite experience, a little salt is all it takes to get metals to dissolve.
• Information on this engineering problem was not coming through clearly from the engineering or chemistry sides. It took a biologist, pediatrician Mona Hanna-Attisha, to document the real-time results and provide the data to kick-start a high-level investigation.
• Morals of the story: when dealing with a biological system pls consider asking a biologist, your vagina and/or city could depend on this
• Pls use a condom when fucking any water-soluble material
• Still don’t put the stalactite in your butt -3/10 do not recommend
OK, I haven’t reblogged this before now but the final post takes it to a whole new level and I can no longer resist.
fuck I love the internet
Oh my God you guys, the malachite dildo thing is still being debated. I love Tumblr.
Thats the weirdest erotic sentence i’ve read all month
this fucking post singlehandedly ruined my life
You don’t really appreciate how fucking great fan fic is when it comes to writing sex untill you stop to recognise how Serious Literary Stars fail at writing sex.
Forget what his dick is doing, what are her breasts doing? How do a pair of fat sacks attached to a ribcage barrel-roll anywhere? Let alone across a man’s mouth and then his wanger immediately after? Sir, why is your mouth so dong-adjacent? Is your weiner detachable, is that it? Do you have your joystick clutched in your hand so that you can score a sweet schlong-to-titty-roll immediately after a kiss and then proceed to beat your banana all over her body in the world’s most failed attempt at erotic massage??? HOW DO YOU THINK SEX WORKS???
… guys
….. Are the sex scenes in My Immortal better than this? “HE PUT HIS THINGY IN MY YOU-KNOW-WHAT AND WE HAD SEX.”
… I mean. Comparatively…
Like, in My Immortal, it’s at least implied he knows where he’s supposed to put it. It’s very simplistic, Ikea-style sex (insert tab A into slot B) but that’s better than this vague, useless composition of random, nonsensical placement and movement of body parts.
So yes, the sex in My Immortal is, in this sense, better.
OK so I’m sure people are aware of this, but just in case you’re not: there is an annual ‘award’ given every year by the Literary Review for bad sex scenes in fiction. The above entry (sorry) by Morrissey won this illustrious award in 2015 (and yes, he threw a massive tantrum about it, because he’s Morrissey):
The best part of this is that the 2016 nominations were just announced, and OH BOY, there are some absolute crackers this year:
And in case anyone is interested, these are some of the entries that Morrissey beat to the top prize last year:
I agree. We are spoilt by fanfiction.
I literally never want to hear anyone badmouth fanfiction again, I have never in all my years of internetdom read anything as troubling as, “Under that sling, her breasts were like young fawns, sheep frolicking in hyssop – Psalms were about to pour out of me.”
tag urself i’m “Come, sonny boy!”
I kind of see what the fawn thing was going for – imitating Song of Songs – but (a) it does so badly, (b) it then brings up the Psalms INSTEAD OF Song of Songs. If you’re going to do literary allusions at least get them right, my dude
My worst (first) written sex scene is like literary gold compared to what I’ve just writnessed with mine own two eyeballs.
I suck at writing sex scenes and… well. I feel positively gifted, compared.
huh. Well, Biology can cover a LOT, so I’ll start with some basics.
Edit: Spelling errors – I wrote this pre-caffeine, so there will be THINGS.
1) Your period (menses, monthly, moon-time, whatever) is only supposed to cause you minor discomfort, and unless you are extremely stressed, IS supposed to come on average around every 28 days. A lot of women whose periods are normal synch up with the moon and don’t even realize it.
So, if your period causes you more pain than minor discomfort (you need pain pills like whoa, not just maybe an acetametaphin and a heating pad); you bleed exessively in large clots; you do not have cycles that can be tracked in 28-day increments–SOMETHING IS WRONG. There are a multitude of problems that could be causing thess issues, and most of them are very, very serious. If you get brushed off by the first doctor you see, find another. And another. Don’t stop until someone listens, because one of those problems will make you infertile if not treated. (Another one an kill you, another one can make your hormones all fucked up and can also affect fertility and oh, your entire life, etc.) Do not let someone tell you that any of those things are normal. They are not.
2) There is no reliable “pulling out” method. If you have a male sexual partner who tells you this, punch him in the junk and run. Trust me; he deserved it. Condoms, gloves, dental dams, and lube. Okay? Always these things, unless you are in a blood-tested-clean and truly trustworthy monogomous relationship with someone and you’re on the pill (unless you’re trying to specifically get pregnant, then…well, your call.) Yes, even if you’re with a girl or gender neutral folk, you use birth control that fits yours and their body parts. Period. No arguing. Don’t do it.
2.5) Lube is your very good friend, even if it’s just for maturbation. Masturbation is actually an important step in your physical teenage development, because it helps to teach your body several things: What it likes; what you like; how you respond to certain stimuli; and it teach you that you can be seriously into a bit of sexing and your crotch will remain bone dry because it is a contrary piece of work. That’s what the lube is for. No shame. Everyone should have lube, ages 12-ish to Dead. Here’s a tip: DO NOT MASTURBATE INTO YOUR USED SOCKS, no matter your gender. Used socks are full of bacteria; that is fucking gross and is inviting infection. Go out and buy a stack or three of clean, 100% cotton hankerchiefs, any color. Wash them up, fold them, and keep them next to your bed with your lube (hidden if need be because of stupid parents or nosy-ass roomies). When you’re done with your daily grind (HEH) wipe yourself down with one of those. They’re clean, won’t leave paper bits behind in your bits, and they’re softer than kleenex. OR: invest in a bag/box of all-natural baby wipes. Your bits don’t need to be slathered in alcohol and misc. crap just after masturbation time. (This also apply to post-sexy-fun times, too.) If anyone questsions you about your hankerchiefs or baby wipes, tell ‘em you have allergies and they need to leave your stuff alone. Oh, and that adage that taking a piss after you’ve had sex to reduce chances of UTI? Totally true, and should be attempted whenever possible, especially with vag-parts.
3) Your birth control should not make you ill. If it does, the hormone dose is too high. If your birth control also does not actually help some of your period issues (endometriosis, hello) then the hormone dose is too low. Either way, if your blood pressure drops and you feel like you’re dying, please go to the ER. Birth control is a necessary evil if you have period problems, but it can also cause you to drop dead of a heart attack if you’re not being monitored by a doctor. That’s what that long-ass list of warnings are for.
(If you have heart issues, btw? You’re just gonna have to cope with terrible periods. I’m so sorry.)
3.5) The only time you do not need birth control: you are not sexually active AND your periods are normal. That’s it. Under all other circumstances, you need some form of birth control.
4) If you bleed excessively, make sure you’re getting your red blood cell count checked at least once a month so you’re not anemic, and if your insurance/doctor won’t allow this, take a very good Iron Enzymatic supplement. 50 mgs a day is good unless your red blood count has dropped into the anemic range, then just double it to twice a day for a while. (Mega doses will just make you fuckin’ constipated, and who needs that??)
5)
Sex should not hurt. Ever. No. Not if it’s your first time, not if it’s
your last time. (If sex hurts, it’s because some motherfucker who needs
to die is raping you–rapists don’t care about your comfort.) Safe,
sane, and consenual sex is about making sure you’re not hurting each
other (unless you want to, but that’s BDSM and variants and I don’t
quite think you’re ready to hit those waters yet, not coming in knowing
nothing), that everyone is happy, and that everyone is consenting all
the way through the act.
6) If you do not have lube, do not let your parnter stick anything
into your crotch (or ass, for that matter) until your partner has
actually done their absoulute best to make the REST of your body
conviced that it is sexy times and it needs to produce lube now. I don’t care if they’re using a pre-lubricated condom; that’s not eough. If your partner rushes it and won’t listen to you, kick their asses out of bed and
send them on their way–you do not need assholes in your life. We each
get one of our very own and that is enough. A lack of lubrication can
bruise and tear vaginal tissue, and that is EXTREMELY UNCOMFORTABLE, and
if there is bleeding, increases the chance of STIs.
6.5) I
don’t can what fanfic says. You need a really good condom-safe lube for
anal sex. Always. To do otherwise is to risk tearing the rectum, which
means blood, which means greater chances of sexually transmitted
infections–or normal infections, which also suck for the person dealing
with them. You do not want to tear someone’s insides, okay? You want
them to enjoy the process. If they want to “feel” it? You can be more
enthusiastic about the process, but not without the right
lube/condoms/gloves. If you’ve gotten to the blood-tested monogomous point? You can leave the condoms and gloves behind if you want, but don’t abandon the lube.
6.55) ENEMAS ARE NOT NECESSARY PRIOR TO ANAL SEX UNLESS THE RECEIVING PARTNER IS ON THE VERGE OF NEEDING TO GO TAKE A SHIT. OKAY? Enemas are saline solutions which dry out that internal tissue, and that will make anal sex less healthy, NOT more. If you’re afraid that you might encounter a hint of feces that you need a magnifying glass to find, anal sex is not for you; find something else to do. A healthy anus/rectum actually does a very good job of cleaning itself out during a bowel movement unless you’re sick or backed up–whih means fix both of those problems before sex. Your butt is otherwise EMPTY unless a bowel movement is impending. Okay? EMPTY. You’re fine. If you’re still a little weirded out, go back to the gloves and the condoms.
6.555) YES, FUCKING GLOVES. I MEAN IT. (PUN INTENDED.) I AM SO SERIOUS. If you are a girl-parted person with a boy-parted person (gender aside) then that boy-parterd person can get you pregnant without ever sticking his cock in your vag. It’s rare, but semen is ejected with pre-ejaculate, and if they get near your crotch, some of those stubborn little bastards WILL make the long climg into the uterus to find an available egg.
7) Pre-ejaculate is normal. It’s the boy version of lubing up before sex. Normal pre-ejeculate should taste sweet with a hint of salt, not bitter. Bitter pre-ejeculate means your boy-parted person needs to change their diet. (Getting rid of high-fructose corn syrup helps a LOT, actually.)
Cum tastes like bitterness crawled up somewhere to breed and become the most horrible liquid to ever pass your lips…unless you’re East-Asian. (Yes, this is confirmed.) For some reason, Japanese women and others from that region of the world find cum to be the most delicious thing ever. Where do you think facial porn originated from? (They also consider it good for your skin which, well…it *is* protein, so they’re probably not wrong.)
8) You can withdraw consent from sex at ANY TIME. Even if someone’s about to climax, you’re still allowed to say No, Stop, and your parnter DAMNED WELL BETTER LISTEN or I will happen to them. Beat the shit out of them if they whine about needing to stop. Kick them in the face. Make them TAKE YOU SERIOUSLY. It’s your body; you get to decide when the sexing stops.
9) Sex toys are for everyone. If you need something basic (vibator, dildo) and have a trusted adult or adult-age friend, do some online research and then have them order what you need. (If they’re really awesome, they’ll do the whole “baby’s first sex toy” silliness and buy it for you, but be prepared to fork over money. $20 to $150 is a standard price range. (Seriously, but you can get a good vibe AND a basic silicone dildo in the $20 range.)
9.5) Buy silicone sex toys. They’re often dishwasher safe (you don’t want bacterial buildup THERE, either–btw, wash them in hot water and soap after use, please) and masturbation/explorations/sex is NOT the way you wanna discover that you’re allergic to latex. *raises hand* Believe me, it sucks.
10) Tiger balm does not make a good lube.
11) In some cultures, boobies are nothing more than food sacks. This is okay. If you are not from one of those cultures but don’t get anything fun out of playing with your tits? This is ALSO okay. Some people just don’t have that reaction. If your boobies Do work for sensual pleasure? Explore what kind of pressure you like on your nipples (if at all, which is also okay) and what touching the rest of those parts do. Also, bitten nipples hurt, but sometimes what comes before that feels really nice, but we’re right back to BDSM and variants so uh…maybe later on that.
12) Your vagina, when chemically balanced, can excrete perfectly normal fludis that will eat through your underwear. This is normal. It’s just really annoying. At worst, you’ll have stains you can never get rid of. (This is why I buy exclusively black underwear, by the way.)
Bonus 13) Your bra should fit so well that you forget you’re wearing it. If it’s always uncomfortable, it does not fit right. I don’t care what anyone else says–it is not meant to be a horse harness. The shoulder straps should stay in place all the time. The cups should be filled out but your tits should not overflow them. The body strap (which is where most of your support comes from) should be very snug, but you shoudl be able to get a finger between skin and band. If your boobs are still under your armpit, wrong size bra. Cotton is your friend but hard to find–stick with nylon whenever you can unless you have an allergy. Polyester bras are most common, but they are also the most commonly FUCKING ITCHY even without an allergy.
Bonus 14) If your underwear are too tight around the legs, they’re the wrong type, even if they feel snug and properlly fitted elsewhere. Nylon is also your good friend here, with a cotton gusset to absorb sweat and weird/normal cloth-eating fluids.
Bonus 15) If you sweat a lot from gameplay or whatever, your vag is going to be stank. Take a shower and it’s fine. That’s what normally happens when bacteria from sweat play with vaginal ph and acidity levels, and nothing is wrong.
Bonus 16) A yeast infection is very easy to identify. Yes, it really will look like cottage cheese. Gross. If a 7-day Monistat (don’t go generic) doesn’t clear it up, do NOT just repeat that same kit. There are 3 different primary OTC yeast infection kits on the market–three different drugs. Try one of each, then hit the doctor for something that works if you still have a problem. (This is also how a latex allergy can reveal itself, btw. Fun times.)
Bonus 17) DO NOT DOUCHE. IT IS BAD FOR YOU. Your vagina is supposed to have a very specific scent. It is not supposed to smell like flowers soaked in vinegar for six months. Even if you have a yeast infection—NO NO NO. You’re just making it worse. Don’t do it. No.
Bonus 18) Do not shove soap in your vag in an attempt to “clean it”. The only thing you need to do to have a clean vag is to occasionally tub soak (not a bubble bath) or reach in there while you’re showering and scoop out any excess fluid that’s built up. It will usually look milky-white, but unless it is CHUNKY milky white, it’s normal. There; clean vag.
Bonus 19) If you can’t wear even the tiniest tampons no matter what you do, something is wrong. Go see a doctor about your pelvis. Yes, I had a broken pelvis and couldn’t wear tampons until I had finally finished gowing to full adulthood size, around age 20. Even then, i stuck with the smallest stuff.
Bonus 20) If you are breast-feeding or your boobs are prepping to breast-feed by ejecting fluid, keep other people’s mouths away from there unless it’s the baby OR you’re, again, in a blood-tested, trusted, monogomous relationship. If your partner is that into breast milk, just make them leave behind enough for the baby. (No, seriously, this is a thing.)
Anyone else wanna get on this fun topic of MY BODY DOES WHAT? and add stuff? 😀
If you get welts on your skin where it contacts the elastic in your underwear, and sometimes along the crease of the thigh where your underwear runs (because there is often elastic in the legs, too), you may have a latex allergy, and want that potential tested.
Because it’s no fun to have to replace your entire underwear drawer because a latex allergy bad enough to start reacting to the small amount of latex in elastic. And it can get to that point later in life, if you have a latex allergy, because latex allergies get worse with repeated exposure.
Okay this is an awesome and well done list of biology stuff! But @deadcatwithaflamethrower, I have to know why
10) Tiger balm does not make a good lube.
got it’s own number point and everything. Oh my god, please tell me you don’t know anyone who tried it. *cringes* I can’t even imagine how much that would hurt.
*giggles and facepalms hard*
I’M the one who tried it, but it was not on purpose. It was an accident. The mate was kind enough to give me a proper “everything hurts” back rub with Tiger Balm one evening. He went and washed his hands in what he believed to be a thorough manner, and then sexy playtime began.
And uhm…let’s just say it takes grease-breaking dish detergent to get Tiger Balm truly off of your skin.
In the Netherlands, abortion is freely available on demand. Yet the Netherlands boasts the lowest abortion rate in the world, about 6 abortions per 1000 women per year, and the complication and death rates for abortion are miniscule. How do they do it? First of all, contraception is widely available and free — it’s covered by the national health insurance plan. Holland also carries out extensive public education on contraception, family planning, and sexuality. An ethic of personal responsibility for one’s sexual activity is strongly promoted. Of course, some people say that teaching kids about sex and contraception will only encourage them to have lots of sex. But Dutch teenagers tend to have less frequent sex, starting at an older age, than American teenagers, and the Dutch teenage pregnancy rate is 9 times lower than in the U.S.
I endorse evidence-based medicine, and evidence-based activism.
claiming children experience sexual attraction is a pedophile claim
children dont know about sex and dont care
toddlers are literally learning how to speak and walk, they barely know how their body works
teens are still exploring themselves
if you claim children can be ace youre implying other children can be sexual
youre sexualizing children
youre offending csa survivors
This is spectacularly nonsensical, and completely inconsistent with observed reality. Teens who have hit puberty typically experience at least some sexual attraction, pretty much by definition. And in the complete absence of any sexual abuse or any prompting, kids tend to have at least some quasi-sexual play, as part of figuring out how bodies work.
And I assure you, your post is a hell of a lot more offensive to most of the CSA survivors I’ve known than the idea that teenagers can be ace or non-ace. Wow. Just fucking wow.
okay here’s the thing i think a lot of antis are missing: rape is not what happens when sex is forced upon a pure and sexless being. it’s not a violation of a person’s sexlessness. rape is what happens when sex is forced upon anyone, even if that person is already sexual. it is a violation of consent to that sexual encounter.
i started masturbating at probably six and figured out that what i was doing was masturbation when i was fourteen. i had enthusiastic first-time sex at seventeen with a girl who was nineteen and didn’t stop having sex with basically any girl that would have sex with me for like… ever, i still definitely have sex with girls whenever they want to with me, and i often give guys and other-gendered people a shot too and it’s often a good time. then there’s all that porn i’ve read and written, and my forays into sex work, and my non-con kinks…
and the important thing is that given all this, given how much i like sex as a subject and an activity,every time someone has tried to use my body without my consent was a violation. nothing i have ever done or thought or wanted has ever given anyone an excuse to use me against my will.
i am unrepentantly, intrinsically sexual and this in no way sanctions anyone to sexually objectify, harass, abuse, or assault me. it is no more okay for someone to rape me than to rape the little girl down the street who goes to church every sunday and doesn’t know what a penis is. neither of us fucking deserve it.
stop reinforcing the virgin/slut dichotomy and start tearing it down, okay? that’s a lot less insulting to CSA survivors, i promise.
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