Making fun of girls who dream of being a wife and stay-at-home-mom actually doesn’t make you progressive or feminist or cool, it just makes you a person who shits on someone else’s dream, a.k.a an asshole
Whenever someone says that I say “Okay, whatever floats your boat, I guess” and then I think “Why would she want that? Isn’t it boring to just sit around all day and do nothing?”
Moms don’t “sit around all day and do nothing” – they have a incredibly important 24/7 job: raising little human beings. Don’t devalue that by calling it “nothing”.
Man, my mom cooked, cleaned, paid the bills, went grocery shopping, did my hair every morning before school and every night (which, as a white woman with no prior experience of doing black hair, especially on a tender-headed child, is no easy feat). She helped with my homework, consoled me after a bad day, frequently volunteered at the school. She even picked my anxious, crying ass up from kindergarten early nearly every day for the first semester and would lie down with me every night when I was a child until I fell asleep (and that usually took several hours). That’s not even scratching the surface of all the things she’s done for me and my siblings. She was always the first person up and the last person to go to bed. Nothing about what she did, and continues to do to a lesser degree, is easy.
Domestic work is constantly undervalued even though every family depends on it. My grandmother on my mom’s side would go hungry just so her kids could eat – that is not nothing.
Also, if you would commend a man for being a stay at home dad and doing exactly what women have been doing for centuries, don’t pretend you care about women’s labor.
As a fandom grandma and the author of ‘archive your fandom stuff’, I’m exhausted and cross. Torn between “fine, Tumblr, I never liked you” and “but…but…Tumblr friends!!!” Tumblr was never meant to work, but we made it work. Even though we did, it was never truly ours. So here we are.
Thank you to the people who have gone out there to make fandom spaces – even when others weren’t very excited or appreciative. AO3. Dreamwidth. Pillowfort. Independent archives and discussion boards.
Thank you to the creators who filled Tumblr with the content that kept us here, brought us together. And to all the tricksters filling up my feed with dunes, noods, classical art, and every possible variety of nipple presentation.
I want to say thank you to the people who are creating positive spaces for discussion of free sexual expression. But do you know how few of these there are? This keeps getting shut down and blocked everywhere. That’s part of why this censorship on Tumblr is a big deal.
For young people, I really recommend the sex and gender education site Scarleteen: cutting-edge information and forums. Any other recommendations are welcome.
working class person: I’m forced to beg for money and am at the mercy of other people’s goodwill as I’m facing serious suffering and/or death because my wages don’t cover the expenses I need to literally stay alive
friends of working class person: we will scrape together some of our own funds at the possible detriment of our own families because we have no other choice if we don’t want our friend to, and we can’t believe we have to say this out loud, die
media: This Uplifting Story of Friendship Will Brighten Your Day :)) Look As These Brave People Go On Happy With Their Lives Despite Hardship :)) This Story Proves That Poor People Who Complain About Their Standards Of Living Are Just Not Trying Hard Enough :)))
this post was sandwiched on my dash between two people’s medical gofundmes and i want to cry
When I was sixteen, my family visited Hawaii, and I had a cute new swimsuit. I was a pretty busty teen, with the vocabulary of an AP English student, and while I was out swimming, a couple of college guys started flirting with me. Nothing gross, just pleasantly casual hey-you-look-great-how-are-you-enjoying-the-beach stuff.
After a minute or two of this, one of them asked if I was there with friends, and I said no, I was with my family. “Wow, you still travel with your family?” one exclaimed. “That’s cool…”
“Well, I am sixteen,” sez me.
Reader, they blanched. They flustered, they apologized, they assured me that they’d thought I was also in college, they wished me a good vacation and they bounced. All within about a minute of realizing they’d been chatting up a minor.
I was mildly mortified at the time, but now? I look back and think, Ah, what good men. What good young men.
The thing I hate most about depression is that it tricks you into thinking you don’t have depression. It makes you think that nothing is wrong with you, that you just feel this way because you lack value as a person. Whether that’s in your relationships, your academics, or a view of yourself, it makes you think you aren’t good enough for any of that.
“It’s not the illness,” it says, “You feel this way because it’s who you are.”
Me: I can’t get out of bed today, what is wrong with me. I’m so lazy and terrible and I am a huge flake and there has got to be something wrong with me.
i don’t really give a shit about this tumblr being removed from the app store thing but above all i am really glad this is happening now and not in 2011 so i don’t have to scroll past some “PSA: TUMBLR HAS BEEN REMOVED FROM THE APP STORE!” “oh HELL NO!!! Dr who fandom grab your tardises!!!” “*50 gif reaction images of the supernatural guy looking pissed off” type of shit
…before somebody tags me in stuff about him and I go off on a big rant and the tagger feels bad. Lars Anderson the ‘revolutionary archer’ has (or had, he might have taken it down) a video of him doing ‘Willian Tell’ shots where he shoots cans off people’s heads.
(until now he’s just done a bunch of sensationalist bullshit and ridiculous claims, which irritate me, but fine. This William Tell shit though, crosses a Line.)
Anybody handling weapons is familiar with that cardinal safety rule of ‘never point a weapon at something you’re not intending to shoot’ right? Yeah.
Lars Andersen is an arrogant, irresponsible asshole taking safety risks nobody should be taking, and I’m dreading the inevitable moment that among all the inspired backyard shooters who think this is SO AWESOME, some moron shoots some other moron in the head.
I say inevitable because every time I teach archery clinics to complete novices, I already have to explain why We Don’t Do That, Ever. People do not need the inspiration or encouragement from a ‘guru’.
People need to realize the significance of this post, because when I reblogged it it was just blank so I think some people may not understand what this is trying to say
Adopting an animal (or buying from someone close to you who has recently had puppies, kittens, etc) is not like simply going to the store and buying a toy. You do not just get to throw it away once you are done with it and it stops being cute in your eyes
This is a real living thing that has emotions, needs, and wants, not something to be thrown away when YOU are done after YOU entered at commitment to raise and care for this animal.
What’s just as bad as dumping the animal off just anywhere you want, whether it be on the side of the road or in a shelter, is that a lot of these animals end up dying after that. Animals are NOT always adopted and strays are not always picked up. Animals can get put down, run over, tortured, and a list of other things
People should really think about what they are responsible for before they bring an animal into their life
Not to mention that that animal loves you, you are his world, and when you drop him off at the shelter – or worse, in the street – you are abandoning him. He doesn’t know what he did wrong, he thinks you’ll come back, maybe you just dropped him off for a bit and you’ll come back to him. Not only did you make a commitment, but that animal loves you and throwing them away isn’t just breaking that commitment, it’s throwing away someone who doesn’t understand why you don’t love him anymore and where you went.
This is so important. Animals are NOT toys you just can’t return them because you got bored. Think first before you buy a cute little puppy for your stupid girlfriend or sister or whatever. Okay. This just make me so mad that I can’t keep talking about it. Seriously you have no heart if you do this. Seriously
With Christmas coming up in a few weeks, I felt this needed reiterating.
Reblogging for the holidays. Know what you’re getting into when buying a pet!
This! My cat has abandonment issues. The first time I went away for a weekend, he licked a good chunk of his hair off his stomach. It’s never grown back. It thankfully did not get bigger and he knows I’m always coming home but still. Multiple people abandoned my poor cat before I adopted him. I’ve left him alone a few times over the year since I’ve had him and he knows I’m always coming back but it still kills me to leave him knowing that. Animals have feelings just like humans. Dont be a dick, don’t just adopt animals for a present when you are not prepared to take care of them for the rest of their life.
THIS THIS THIS THIS!!! I have no sympathy and no mercy for people abandoning these animals. They deserve being abandoned and helpless in ther old age, after being shot in both kneecaps. I wish I could do the shooting.
you could be my boyfriend of 85 years or my husband of 586778 years or my favourite teacher or my most beloved mentor but if you are a man and you yell at me or raise your voice at me i can 100% guarantee our relationship will never be the same ever again there is something so treacherous about men who needlessly raise their voice
Okay, but replace man with woman… Sounding a lil sexist.
why stop there!! let’s replace man with gecko!! i HATE reptiles!
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awww. i don’t mean you gecko girl it’s okay i’m sorry
In my personal experience, women raise their voices because they feel like they aren’t being listened to. Men raise their voices because they feel like they aren’t being obeyed.
SPILL. THAT. TEA.
No one has to put up with a person, I don’t care what gender, yelling at them. No one has to put up with name calling. Please don’t allow it, it only encourages the bullies. I hang up on the VP of the company who was yelling at me over the phone, saying “we’ll talk when you calm down”. She did and it was never mentioned again (I still think she should apologize). I never yelled at an employee, ever. Don’t accept it, its not normal.
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