starkfeels:

but trans!woman Tony Stark- Toni Stark, she doesn’t wanna change her name really, she’s never gone by “Anthony” anyway and there was a reason for it- and Pepper Potts. trans!Tony  Pepperony!

• Pepper finds out because she catches Toni dressing up, nylons, heels, makeup on and gets flustered and thinks it’s some sexual fetish thing but Toni stumbles over her words to get out “It’s not what you think!” and the two of them just stare at each other for a moment before Toni breaks down everything
• Pepper’s the only one who knows that Toni’s a trans woman for a long time. She always calls her Toni, and no one understands “Why does his assistant call him by his first name?” and Toni always calls Pepper “Ms. Potts” still. 
• When Toni comes out, Pepper being the first person to correct anyone in the press on her pronouns and shut any transphobic bullshit down. 
• When Toni asks Pepper if it changes anything about their relationship- “because there’s been something here, hasn’t there, Miss Potts?” Toni tries to smirk, but it’s too earnest- Pepper doesn’t hesitate to reassure her. “I’m still your girl, Toni.”  They share their first real kiss as soon as the words have left Pepper’s mouth.
• As soon as Toni gets back from Afghanistan, she starts estrogen. It’s one thing Pepper doesn’t have to remind her of. She forgets to eat while in her workshop more often than she forgets to take her hormones. 
• When their relationship goes public, Pepper fields questions about her sexuality by just giving a stare and taking a question from a different reporter. She blacklists reporters if they bring it up more than once.
• Toni’s body dysmorphia gets really terrible when her PTSD hits and she keeps building suits to fight it, some of them being noticeably “feminine” in shape, but she hates those worst of all and Pepper tries her hardest to remind Toni that she’s beautiful and sometimes those conversations do nothing and make Toni more upset, but she knows Pepper’s trying and eventually she goes back to bed and let’s Pepper be the big spoon.
• Pepper Potts and trans woman!Toni Stark!!!!!!!!!!!!