Tag: trigger warning

roachpatrol:

the-real-seebs:

furcourse:

claiming children experience sexual attraction is a pedophile claim

children dont know about sex and dont care
toddlers are literally learning how to speak and walk, they barely know how their body works
teens are still exploring themselves

if you claim children can be ace youre implying other children can be sexual
youre sexualizing children
youre offending csa survivors

This is spectacularly nonsensical, and completely inconsistent with observed reality. Teens who have hit puberty typically experience at least some sexual attraction, pretty much by definition. And in the complete absence of any sexual abuse or any prompting, kids tend to have at least some quasi-sexual play, as part of figuring out how bodies work.

And I assure you, your post is a hell of a lot more offensive to most of the CSA survivors I’ve known than the idea that teenagers can be ace or non-ace. Wow. Just fucking wow.

okay here’s the thing i think a lot of antis are missing: rape is not what happens when sex is forced upon a pure and sexless being. it’s not a violation of a person’s sexlessness. rape is what happens when sex is forced upon anyone, even if that person is already sexual. it is a violation of consent to that sexual encounter. 

i started masturbating at probably six and figured out that what i was doing was masturbation when i was fourteen. i had enthusiastic first-time sex at seventeen with a girl who was nineteen and didn’t stop having sex with basically any girl that would have sex with me for like… ever, i still definitely have sex with girls whenever they want to with me, and i often give guys and other-gendered people a shot too and it’s often a good time. then there’s all that porn i’ve read and written, and my forays into sex work, and my non-con kinks…

and the important thing is that given all this, given how much i like sex as a subject and an activity, every time someone has tried to use my body without my consent was a violation. nothing i have ever done or thought or wanted has ever given anyone an excuse to use me against my will. 

i am unrepentantly, intrinsically sexual and this in no way sanctions anyone to sexually objectify, harass, abuse, or assault me. it is no more okay for someone to rape me than to rape the little girl down the street who goes to church every sunday and doesn’t know what a penis is. neither of us fucking deserve it. 

stop reinforcing the virgin/slut dichotomy and start tearing it down, okay? that’s a lot less insulting to CSA survivors, i promise.